Leah Marone: Reflections: The Superpower of Being Present

In this interview we chat with Leah Marone about being present. We ask her who should attend her INBOUND 2020 session and why. We also dive into hurdles, myths, and even a tip or two on being present and what effect that can make to you and your business.

Reflections: The Superpower of Being Present

Multitasking helps us achieve more and therefore be more successful right? Wrong! Unfortunately, multitasking creates stress, negatively impacts our relationships, and encourages burnout. We are constantly stimulated and instantly gratified which leads to a decrease in our ability to focus and 'just be.' Join Leah Marone to practice stopping the cycle! Re-energize your superpower and learn how to be more present with yourself and others through this audio-based session.

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About the Expert

Leah Marone

Leah Marone is a psychotherapist who specializes in anxiety, depression, relationships, and Mindfulness. By having a variety of clinical roles in various states and countries, she has developed a diverse professional experience and global perspective. Currently, Leah sees individuals and families at her practice in Charlotte. She is also sought out by corporations to work with executives and teams on improving communication, productivity and job satisfaction. Leah grew up in Indiana with a basketball in hand. Sports not only encouraged growth on a number of levels, but the experiences challenged her to become more comfortable with vulnerability. She completed her Masters in Austin, TX and then proceeded to allow the "travels bug" to take over. Her passion for adventure has not dwindled, simply morphed with motherhood. Leah and her husband strive to provide their two daughters with the tools to gain the confidence to seek out their own adventures every day.

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Full Transcript

George Thomas 0:00
All right, inbound attendees, sprocket tears viewers, listeners, whoever the heck you are, you know what time it is it's inbound speaks where I speak to people who are speaking at inbound anyway, that gets so micro every time but hopefully it makes you giggle. I am here because I'm going to do an interview. I'm here because I'm in the moment or I'm present. More on that later though. Let's go ahead and run that bumper and get into the good stuff. Alright, Leo, let's go ahead and talk about this. Let's talk about who should be in the room. And why in one moment, though, see what I'm doing there. I'm already teasing them because this interview is all about teasing them into your session. Before we get into that, why don't you explain to the inbound attendees who you are and kind of maybe what makes you tick.

Leah Marone 0:51
Okay, well, my name is Liam Iran. I am like a therapist. trainer. I do individual and family therapy. Many hats, which I like. And I guess what makes me tick is it's gonna sound vague, but I think it's connection. I know that sounds weird, but I love connecting, whether it's with someone and just cutting up, whether it's laughing, whether it's hiking and connecting with nature. I love working out. I love new experiences and travel. So I think it's just kind of connecting with my environment who's in it.

George Thomas 1:25
I love that I think it's really important. I also think it's something that people right now may or may not be having a hard time with, which is why I think your topic is so relevant to where we're at right now. But if I'm trying to figure out what sessions do I want to go to because there's a plethora of them. And by the way, there's a ton of people that can now attend in bound because it's free. Why and who should be in your room who wants to pay attention to the superpower of being present?

Leah Marone 1:58
Well, let's see. We all have this superpower. It's whether or not we executed or not really. And I think if you're someone who has can identify yourself with more than one role in your life, which I would think might be all of us, this will be, I think, a beneficial session for you. Because it's really just embarking on the path of just being present. And what I mean by that is just showing up showing up in the moment, whether it's exciting, whether it's thrilling, whether it's sad, just living in the moment, and I think we are so used to a sense of urgency, getting things done, multitasking, you know, doing this and that on our phones, but yet listening, typing an email as we're doing this, like it's kind of how we function. So I think it's a really interesting segment, to learn skills and to get why we need to be present and kind of limit our multitasking kind of fluxing back and forth between roles if we can. This will help us with Stress Management, this will help us with happiness. This will help us in our relationships. I think just if you're human, this will be a segment that you can benefit from.

George Thomas 3:09
So all of you aliens out there do not Yeah, for this session, this is not for you, right? But but you never know. Right? So here's how they can tune in from anywhere. So the possibilities are endless. here's here's the deal, though. Like, I want to dive in a little bit deeper, because while I think that some people would have a difficulty with even understanding what we mean by being present, and we may circle back around to that, let's talk about the superpower part of this like, and again, let's not give away the whole form because we want them to, you know, go to your session. But can you kind of lean into how this is a superpower and maybe a change one or two. That will kind of happen when you start to pay attention to being present? Yeah,

Leah Marone 4:01
no, I think I coined it kind of as a superpower. Because when we are present and when we're kind of scanning through our five senses and taking in a processing all the information at hand with where we're at or what we're doing, we're executing a certain part of our brain that doesn't allow for future futuristic or past thinking, which really is the main culprit of anxiety and stress and other icky feelings and emotions of being one half. So if you think about this superpower of kind of fleshing those things out, and also tapping into what I like to call a reset, you're going to clear the clutter mentally and emotionally and in my opinion, you're on you're in it when you're not you adhere to it, you reset and it's just a matter of being your true self as best you can show up in those moments. And to me, I think that's that's our superpower.

George Thomas 4:56
I love this so much. If there was a couch I would jump right on Right now so like, I feel like I'm about to jump on a digital couch because there's a lot yeah, there we go. There's something that you talked about thinking about being in the future. And you talked about, like, historically, to be present. How important is the ability to actually look both directions because historically, myself and probably other humans, like, it's hard to, like, for instance, I have on my whiteboard, I'm kind of sharing here for a hot second. I have on my whiteboard. I've come a long way since 2013. So that I have a constant reminder of the historical path that I've gone down. Not everybody will do that. I'm I'm fascinated with thinking about the future and where I can get to, I suck at understanding where I'm at right now. Right. And so so talk us through just briefly a little bit of like, how employees Is it understand the history and understand the future to be aligned? Or can you go too far in both directions? And then totally just jack yourself up?

Leah Marone 6:10
Yeah. So I mean, you make a good point like, and I'm not saying it's not important to, you know, tap into your past and identify behavioral patterns are just thinking patterns that you have or like you said, like really giving yourself on the pattern a pat on the back for a path that you've taken since 2013. Like, that's amazing. And we need to use those things. I think it when it's when it crosses that line, where it becomes kind of repetitive, and we feel stagnant, and we feel the emotions. As a result, we feel emotions that are just, again, they're stagnating us we're feeling kind of like we can't move, we're not sure where to go. We're basically you know, we're not in a balance of logic and emotion. We're kind of just taken over by emotion. And, you know, as well as I do some of the hundred percent emotional they're not going to be as on if someone's 100% logical, they're going to miss some things, too. So I think it's like we need to tap into the past we need to plan for the future. But we also throughout our day, it's really important to to just have those check ins like, how am I doing? How am I feeling? How's my body? Oh, my knee hurts. Oh, how am I doing? Like, we don't do that enough. We don't check in and think, how did I feel after that conversation. And it's not necessarily that we have to do something or execute something right then and there. But it's just that check in and that connection that we need to continue to build and have with ourselves that I think they're just missing the boat on. So when we do have those nights, we're We're up all night, or we're written with anxiety, or we can't function or we're just like, hopeless or all these things. That to me is just a good indication that your balloon is full, you haven't let air out. You have not taken the time to reset yourself to pay attention to where you're at physically, emotionally, you've tapped out. And so it's really important to kind of keep your mind keep your emotional health in And practice that presence.

George Thomas 8:03
I love this conversation so much right now. It's amazing like, because I just think inherently we're so programmed especially pre COVID to be like, go go go go always listen to radio always Netflix thing always and like to actually self diagnose or be self aware of where we are or what's happening or even like you leaned in like, I what, how did I feel after that conversation? Like even the layer of like, and why did I feel that way? Right? Alright, so again, we don't want to give away the whole farm. But what's one tip, which by the way, as the old man on the lawn, my one tip would be like, put your damn phone down like that. But as a professional, what's one tip that you would give folks between now and actually attending your session of like, here's a way that you can start to be more present in your day.

Leah Marone 9:00
Yeah, and I give a lot of these in my talk but I think one that I would say is think of something especially in the morning maybe before you start your workday or before you start something that and I kind of refer to as your am bookend, right I have an am booking booking at a pm book and but I really want you to focus maybe on a book and and something in the beginning of your day that you can truly focus on from start to finish without multitasking. So that may be your cup of coffee. So maybe tomorrow morning, if you're like a little coffee, I do it anyway. Maybe tomorrow morning, you put your phone down, you maybe don't have the music on you maybe aren't interacting with anyone. And you utilize all your senses. What does it take to brew that cup of joe? You know, what does it smell like? What do you feel like what things does it arousing you? Maybe you sit outside, maybe you sit at your kitchen, maybe you stand and you drink your coffee and you really take it in and you really are present why you enjoy this and why you do this every day. And you'll be amazed when you kind of scan your five senses and really are just involved in one thing. It's amazing how when you transition from that how it does almost feel like a reset or that you get the full experience of that even if it's something minor I mean Heck, I don't care if you do it when you brush your teeth, but something that you do start to finish without looking at something talking to someone that way going and checking the washers whatever whatever have you one task from start to finish that you're fully present?

George Thomas 10:31
Yeah, I just want you transform me to like a different place in time as you're talking not so much with the brushing of the teeth thing but the coffee It was funny because with the coffee I was like, Okay, so what does it smell like? What does it taste like? What What is the steam from the cup actually feel like on my face like I hear the birds chirping in the background like there's a soft breeze because I'm sitting on my deck like, like all of it because we don't we don't do that. We grab it. Joe, we run out the door or right. And so I love that. Listen, viewers, listeners do this tomorrow morning, coffee, whatever beverage, whatever thing. Do what Leah is saying here. This is amazing. So, last year, I had fun with this question, I would say, all right, so you've given your talk and all sudden the audience they all stand up, they give you a raving round of applause. This year, I'm just like, this year, I'm wishing that the inbound team would have sent us applause buttons, like an easy button in our packets. So like, we could have hit that when we're done with our talk, but, but the question still lingers inside of me when people are done attending your session. What's the big thing like what do you want people to believe or do like, where are we trying to get them to

Leah Marone 11:53
think just kind of reframing even if it's for a little sliver of their day, reframing or I'm having a different lens with how you do something respond to something or part of something, I guess it's just having a different lens. And really just not operating constantly in this state, where you're just kind of one thing to the next one thing to the next. And you're just utilizing a part of your brain non stop. And there's others that are kind of dormant and need to be tapped into, if that makes sense. And so really just getting the full experience get even if it's a sliver of your day does wonders and it really helps you identify and get the benefits of being in that moment that will then hopefully see to other areas of your life and you'll see that stress, anxiety, those emotions that we you know, generally the point of negative start to start to decrease. There's just not room for

George Thomas 12:49
so much good viewers listeners. What I want you to do is I want you to take pause, I want you to reflect and I want you to change your lens. I want you to take That moment in the morning and just really do what we've talked about in this interview and while you're sipping that coffee or whatever beverage it is, we'll be here waiting for you in the next episode.